Sometimes the best way to move through a stuck place is to laugh. And for woman in recovery, codependence can be a very sticky place.
How do we parse caring and codependence? When should we persevere, and when should we let go? Whether as a mother, lover or friend—even as a sponsor—is it admirable to “go to any lengths”? Or is that pure self-destruction and denial?
A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior
So, clearly there's no do-it-yourself discernment.
In the waters of codependence, you need a good therapist, sponsor and a couple of smart recovering friends. You want friends who will tell you the truth. Yes, you hope they’ll tell you gently, but more important you hope they will just tell it even if they have to say, “You did what!!!” or “That is not kindness you crazy girl!” or maybe they will grin and say, “Sounds like you need some Co-Tylenol.”
You do know that Co-Tylenol is what a codependent takes when her partner has a headache?
You just gotta laugh. It’s actually therapeutic --big belly laughs can shake the crazy right out of you.
So, here’s what I heard last week:
In recovery, we are told to learn to stay present, in the here and
