Monday, March 01, 2010

All of It

A friend of mine told me what a wise friend of hers told her when she was contemplating marriage to the man she had been living with.

The friend told her to get very quiet and “make a list of all the things that upset you, annoy you and that you don’t like about him”. Then very carefully look at that list and ask yourself: “Can you accept each item on that list?”

If you can, then you can marry him because those things will not change.

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Since reading this post at the beginning of the month, I have told it to several people. It is one of those simply true things that perhaps one only gets after a number of relationships gone bad with trying to make someone other than s/he is. Thanks for this one, Diane.