Perfectionism and Alcoholism

Are you the perfect alcoholic? I was and I am. This article about woman, perfectionism and alcoholism hit me dead on and I felt every bell of recognition ring. I drank (and ate) to not feel and so much that I did not want to feel was my sense of not-good-enough-ism--and that of course comes from perfectionism.

It came into recovery with me and I struggle to this day. I even want my recovery to be perfect--tho I say I don't and in my heart do not--but still...take a look.

And take a look at this powerful article and share it with women you know--in and out of recovery:


http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/10/alcohol-as-escape-from-perfectionism/280482/

What Matters More?

What matters more: What other people think of me? or Who I am and how I feel? I know the answer is supposed to be “Who I am.” But too often it is “what other people think”. I know that this falls into the character defect bin because–using Seventh Step prayer criteria—it “stands in the way of my usefulness to God and my fellows.”

I’m praying about this. Teasing it loose. Gently lifting up the edges—like a price tag on glass—and inviting it to let go.

Yes perfectionism feeds it. No question about that. But I have never seen perfectionism let go because it was bashed or shamed or anonymously poked at. J