I found an old notebook this week in which I had been taking notes when reading Ken Wilbur who wrote a lot about Jung and the concept of our shadow side. What Wilbur said about projection is this:
If another person’s behavior informs us it is information.
But if another person’s behavior affects us it is a projection.
Not always easy to sort the two—but then again-- if we are honest with ourselves we do kinda know whether we are being informed or affected. I mean, if I’m mad, sad, jealous, gloating, there’s a good chance I’m being affected.
It makes me think that this is another way to keep an eye on my side of the street—my reactions, my feelings and yes, ugh—my projections.