The books pile up on the coffee table and the
bed stand, and the library list is dog-eared and scribbled. You too?
So, where to
begin? You’d like a good novel, and maybe romance and some history too. You’d
like help with the relationship thing, and there’s also that stack of business management
books you saved to read. And then there are all those recovery memoirs. What’s
the story with women and men and addiction?
I have a
suggestion. There is one book that you can read now that will give you
everything. This is the book for the boat, the beach and the bed. There is one,
beautifully written book that illustrates the insidious connection between
women and men and appearance and addictions.
Hands-down, the
single best, summer book for August is Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy.
With Tolstoy’s tale you get everything: romance, history, a relationship how-to
book, and the best management advice you’ll ever read. You’ll see how tiny
choices add up to good lives and how tiny choices also add up to disaster.
You’ll see a woman, a complex, decent woman—like you or me—undone by a subtle
combination of pride, fear, ego, and restlessness. Don’t we know restlessness?
Don’t balk at
the bulk. Yes, it’s a big book but every kid and maybe you too—have just
knocked off the three Hunger Games books. And by choosing Anna K. you only have
to buy one book. Here’s why:
Anna K. is the
best relationship book ever written. It’s got examples of how to make a
marriage work and how to how to ruin one from the start. Worried about
infidelity? This is the book that, well, wrote the book on that topic. Tolstoy
shows how couples get into that terrain and how you can get back out. Robin
Norwood’s famous, Women Who Love Too Much, doesn’t even come close to
what Tolstoy writes about emotional dependency and the impact of addiction on a
family. .
As for new ideas about work: Tolstoy
offers the most compelling and insightful analysis of how to motivate employees.
Tom Peters has written half a dozen books trying to get at what Tolstoy packs
into just a few scenes.
And addiction. It’s amazing that after so
many decades of literary analysis how many critics missed the fact that Anna is
an addict and crazy codependent. She takes drugs and misuses alcohol. And then
her codependence. It’s all here. Tolstoy knew.
But, you may be
thinking that fiction can’t help your real life. With all due respect, you’re
wrong. Fiction gives us the assurance that the story that we love most—our
own—is worthy.
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