A priest who is leading a retreat for women in recovery tells this story. He was a prison chaplain and talking with a man who was serving a life sentence for murder. The man told the priest that he had killed a man who had hurt him. The man had grabbed him by the throat and he retaliated by killing him. And now, eleven years later, he keeps dreaming that the dead man has a hand reaching out of his grave and he has the prisoner by the throat.
The priest says here is a question for your daily inventory:
“Who still has me by the throat?”
Then he goes on to say:
We serve a God who loves us and who forgives us. If we become aware of our God who loves us completely then no one can have us by the throat.