A friend of mine told me what a wise friend of hers told her when she was contemplating marriage to the man she had been living with.
The friend told her to get very quiet and “make a list of all the things that upset you, annoy you and that you don’t like about him”. Then very carefully look at that list and ask yourself: “Can you accept each item on that list?”
If you can, then you can marry him because those things will not change.
Since reading this post at the beginning of the month, I have told it to several people. It is one of those simply true things that perhaps one only gets after a number of relationships gone bad with trying to make someone other than s/he is. Thanks for this one, Diane.
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